Roo - expounded

Below is a response to a response I received on Fetlife following this post which I posted there also. I thought I would repost it here to keep everyone in the loop.


Hello *********,

This isn't an imposition or intrusion at all. I welcome comments and thoughts.

I sway between two opinions regarding this event and those following. At times I am quite angry, and disappointed by my husband's lack of response, and yet at other times I am very calm about the entire happening. We see Roo each week on a Saturday afternoon after cricket. We haven't seen him or his wife socially since before Christmas. I can speak freely to him, he has sworn to both myself and King that he knows what he did was wrong, apologised profusely and swears nothing like it will ever happen again. So do I believe him? No. No way. I think that given 6 months, he will relax into stupidity again and would easily do something like that again. I know that I am never going to be left alone with him again, which isn't something I would want to happen, so that pleases me.

So I wonder if it's sometimes society's opinion on how King should have reacted that surfaces to my consiousness every so often. I don't really want to see him get into a physical confrontation with anyone, certainly not to defend my honour, so I wonder is it just a throwback emotion that my male should have stepped up, thumped his chest and scared off the intruder to his territory? Perhaps.

I know he has to get a number of things about our relationship, regarding outside people, organised and settled in his head. Maybe because i'm okay with the idea of playing with others on occasion, he didn't think it was as bad a experience to me as warrented a 'proper' reaction.

But you are right - we do need to communicate more, and better, and that's definitely on the to-do list this year to work on.

I hope to hear again from you regarding this and other things I post. I enjoy hearing other peoples opinions as they make me look more deeply at what I have written, and that is never a bad thing.

Twist