Below is a response to a response I received on Fetlife following this post which I posted there also. I thought I would repost it here to keep everyone in the loop.
Hello *********,
This isn't an imposition or intrusion at all. I welcome comments and thoughts.
I sway between two opinions regarding this event and those following. At times I am quite angry, and disappointed by my husband's lack of response, and yet at other times I am very calm about the entire happening. We see Roo each week on a Saturday afternoon after cricket. We haven't seen him or his wife socially since before Christmas. I can speak freely to him, he has sworn to both myself and King that he knows what he did was wrong, apologised profusely and swears nothing like it will ever happen again. So do I believe him? No. No way. I think that given 6 months, he will relax into stupidity again and would easily do something like that again. I know that I am never going to be left alone with him again, which isn't something I would want to happen, so that pleases me.
So I wonder if it's sometimes society's opinion on how King should have reacted that surfaces to my consiousness every so often. I don't really want to see him get into a physical confrontation with anyone, certainly not to defend my honour, so I wonder is it just a throwback emotion that my male should have stepped up, thumped his chest and scared off the intruder to his territory? Perhaps.
I know he has to get a number of things about our relationship, regarding outside people, organised and settled in his head. Maybe because i'm okay with the idea of playing with others on occasion, he didn't think it was as bad a experience to me as warrented a 'proper' reaction.
But you are right - we do need to communicate more, and better, and that's definitely on the to-do list this year to work on.
I hope to hear again from you regarding this and other things I post. I enjoy hearing other peoples opinions as they make me look more deeply at what I have written, and that is never a bad thing.
Twist
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
HNT - Half Nekkid Truth
The below photograph was taken less than half an hour ago.
Those are my delightful glass scales showing me two things:
1. I need a pedicure - stat!
And...
2. I need to seriously loose weight. I am approx 178cm/5'9ft tall, and as the scales show 111.4kgs. This puts my BMI about 35.5, and according to everything I've read:
If your BMI is:
Under 18 - you are very underweight and possibly malnourished.
Under 20 - you are underweight and could afford to gain a little weight.
20 to 25 - you have a healthy weight range for young and middle-aged adults.
26 to 30 - you are overweight
Over 30 - you are obese.
So there you have it, I am officially obese, though noone would associate that word with me if asked. Obese looks very different on different people, I may be brave enough to post proper HNT photos of my body this Thursday to show you my shape. Not what immediately comes to mind when you here the word 'obese' but clearly I should be worried into doing something about this.
So I make a promise to myself and everyone watching that I will bring my weight down to under 100kgs by my birthday, which is 2 months away.
Getting down to 99kgs will bring my BMI down to 31 which, while is still way too high, is a good start.
Stay tuned for regular updates and Half Nekkid Truth scale check-ins.
Those are my delightful glass scales showing me two things:
1. I need a pedicure - stat!
And...
2. I need to seriously loose weight. I am approx 178cm/5'9ft tall, and as the scales show 111.4kgs. This puts my BMI about 35.5, and according to everything I've read:
If your BMI is:
Under 18 - you are very underweight and possibly malnourished.
Under 20 - you are underweight and could afford to gain a little weight.
20 to 25 - you have a healthy weight range for young and middle-aged adults.
26 to 30 - you are overweight
Over 30 - you are obese.
So there you have it, I am officially obese, though noone would associate that word with me if asked. Obese looks very different on different people, I may be brave enough to post proper HNT photos of my body this Thursday to show you my shape. Not what immediately comes to mind when you here the word 'obese' but clearly I should be worried into doing something about this.
So I make a promise to myself and everyone watching that I will bring my weight down to under 100kgs by my birthday, which is 2 months away.
Getting down to 99kgs will bring my BMI down to 31 which, while is still way too high, is a good start.
Stay tuned for regular updates and Half Nekkid Truth scale check-ins.
Monday, February 1, 2010
Roo
Just before Christmas 2009, something happened that I'm not proud of. The only thing I did wrong in this occurance was to not be as protective of myself as I should have been. And even King maintains I did absolutely nothing wrong, not even that.
On December 23 I was the victim of a delusional friend of my husbands who I shall call Roo. I will start by saying that he didn't lay a hand on me, I got out of the situation before it escalated that far, but I have no doubt it would have, had I stayed.
Roo is somewhat well known in our group for sending women dirty and suggestive text messages - known to all but his wife aparently. If he targeted single women, fair enough, his choice. However he seems to get a kick out of going after the wives of his friends. When the messages started months ago, I initially encouraged them, amused and flattered by his interest.
Then it was taken too far - photographs of his cock were not something I needed to see, and certainly not video of him jerking off into a sink.
For the next short while all was quiet, with short lapses in his textual behaviour every few weeks. By December I really thought that he had learned to behave, King knew what was happening and the types of things he was sending.
So when Roo's wife asked us to house and cat-sit over Christmas and the New Year, King had no issue giving his approval. Roo and family were leaving Friday at 3am so King suggested I stay there on Thursday night and he would join me on the Friday after he finished work. I had a small amount of hesitation and after I discussed it with King, we decided that Roo wasn't stupid enough to try anything on me, especially as his 19 year old son would also be in the house. Boy were we wrong.
Before I'd even stepped through the door, it began.
His usual and expected greeting and welcome of "Come in if you're sexy and put out!"
It only got worse from there. Quickly plying me with numerous cans of beer in quick succession, under the excuse if showing me how the bedroom (in which King and I would be staying) DVD player works, he put on a (boring) pornographic movie. When I excused myself from the bedroom he began sending me text messages from the other side of the house, inviting me back to suck his cock and other such activities. When I refused, he proclaimed that he was going to jerk off to the movie regardless.
That would have been bad enough, but fine had he not come out to the lounge room clad only in his boxer shorts. He stood by the side of my chair and I quickly averted my eyes, though I could see his hands playing about the shorts. I cannot be 100% on if he removed his cock as I didn't look back for even a second, but I am 98% sure, as I know what he is like.
I left the house, taking with me the spare keys, dutifully fed the cats over the next week, but King and I didn't spend any nights there, no more that the necessary 5 minutes a day.
King has now seen and spoken to him 3 times since this incident, and has no inclination to tell him off or blow up at him for what he did. I don't know how to feel about it really, I just give King the reactions that cause the least amount of upset as I know that's what he wants.
On December 23 I was the victim of a delusional friend of my husbands who I shall call Roo. I will start by saying that he didn't lay a hand on me, I got out of the situation before it escalated that far, but I have no doubt it would have, had I stayed.
Roo is somewhat well known in our group for sending women dirty and suggestive text messages - known to all but his wife aparently. If he targeted single women, fair enough, his choice. However he seems to get a kick out of going after the wives of his friends. When the messages started months ago, I initially encouraged them, amused and flattered by his interest.
Then it was taken too far - photographs of his cock were not something I needed to see, and certainly not video of him jerking off into a sink.
For the next short while all was quiet, with short lapses in his textual behaviour every few weeks. By December I really thought that he had learned to behave, King knew what was happening and the types of things he was sending.
So when Roo's wife asked us to house and cat-sit over Christmas and the New Year, King had no issue giving his approval. Roo and family were leaving Friday at 3am so King suggested I stay there on Thursday night and he would join me on the Friday after he finished work. I had a small amount of hesitation and after I discussed it with King, we decided that Roo wasn't stupid enough to try anything on me, especially as his 19 year old son would also be in the house. Boy were we wrong.
Before I'd even stepped through the door, it began.
His usual and expected greeting and welcome of "Come in if you're sexy and put out!"
It only got worse from there. Quickly plying me with numerous cans of beer in quick succession, under the excuse if showing me how the bedroom (in which King and I would be staying) DVD player works, he put on a (boring) pornographic movie. When I excused myself from the bedroom he began sending me text messages from the other side of the house, inviting me back to suck his cock and other such activities. When I refused, he proclaimed that he was going to jerk off to the movie regardless.
That would have been bad enough, but fine had he not come out to the lounge room clad only in his boxer shorts. He stood by the side of my chair and I quickly averted my eyes, though I could see his hands playing about the shorts. I cannot be 100% on if he removed his cock as I didn't look back for even a second, but I am 98% sure, as I know what he is like.
I left the house, taking with me the spare keys, dutifully fed the cats over the next week, but King and I didn't spend any nights there, no more that the necessary 5 minutes a day.
King has now seen and spoken to him 3 times since this incident, and has no inclination to tell him off or blow up at him for what he did. I don't know how to feel about it really, I just give King the reactions that cause the least amount of upset as I know that's what he wants.
Insomnia
I found that it is quite frustrating when at 3am, King who I was sure was fast asleep, rolled over and asked if I was okay in quite a concerned voice. Apparently I looked like I was having a seizure. I'm not sure how amused he was at my response of "No baby, I'm just getting myself off!"
Well, a girl has got to have something to do when insomnia strikes.
Well, a girl has got to have something to do when insomnia strikes.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Pleasurists #62
via MUSE
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Did you miss Pleasurists #61? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #63? Be sure to read our submission guidelines and then you can use our submission form and submit it before Sunday January 31st at 11:59pm PST.
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- Em and Lo Book Contest Deadline: January 29th.
- EZ Bend Vibrator Giveaway Deadline: January 31st @ 6pm Central.
- V-Day Cards Deadline: January 31st.
- Glassvibrations – a Contest Deadline: January 31st.
- Evolved Vibrator Giveaway! Deadline: February 1st.
- Cupid’s Fun Factory Contest Deadline: February 10th @ 11:59pm.
Looking for something other than reviews?
e[lust] #5
Editor’s Pick
- Fun Factory Flexi Felix by Dr. Ruthie
Note: I really enjoy Dr. Ruthie’s reviews and also think she is absolutely adorable. I think this one is wonderful, especially as an anal review since she talks a lot about uses of anal beads as well as safety and the toy itself. There is also a written component to this review if you click on the link above.
Editrix
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On to the reviews…
Vibrators
- LELO Mona by Laurel
- LELO Mia by Toy With Me
- Je Joue Gi-Ki by Laurel
- I Rub My Duckie Bondage by Undressed Reviews
- LELO Iris and Gigi by Joanna Cake
- Thrusting Jack Rabbit by Melen’s Rayne
- Fly Micro Vibe by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
- LELO Iris by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
- Close2You Opus by EffinSara
- Cloud 9 by EffinSara
- Thrusting Jack Rabbit by Cinnamon
- Je Joue Gi-Ki by Bad Bad Girl
- Vibrating Panties by Bad Bad Girl
- Jimmyjane Iconic Pocket by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
- OhMiBod Freestyle by Pretty Power Tools
- LELO Ina by Saraid
- Spellbound Stud Curved Jack by Mistress Kay
- Onye Fleur by CarrieAnn
- iTap Egg by CarrieAnn
- Wisper Mistery by Kristi
- LELO Mona by Sammi
- Silicone Flexi Power Rod by Red
- Triple Treat Rabbit by Sammi
- Evolved Symphony Opus by Kateanon
- Evolved Citron by Pretty Power Tools
- Velvet Purple Pill by LikeSunshineDust
Dildos
- LELO Ella by Mistress Kay
- Don Wands Nubby Fat Head by Ginger Leigh
- LELO Ella by Dani Darling
- Tantus Compact by EffinSara
- Rainbow Nubby by Lithaewyn
Anal Toys
Toys for Cocks
- Gear Essentials Titan by Hubman and Veronica
- LELO Bo by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
- Boss Cock’s Pleasure Ring by Mistress Kay
- Wave Rider Cock Ring by Sammi
- LELO Bo by Kateanon
Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.
- Astroglide Shooters by Undressed Reviews
- Intimate Organics Aromatherapy Massage Oil by Saraid
- Intimate Organics Relaxing Massage Oil by Red
- Hathor Aphrodisia by Domina Doll
BDSM/Fetish
- Lavish Nipple Clamps by Cinnamon
- Zeus Deluxe Digital Power box by Bad Bad Girl
- Superstrap Ankle Cuffs by Melen’s Rayne
- Fulfill-a-fantasy Suede Flogger by Mistress Kay
- Six Vaginal Electrodes by Sweet Tart
- Nipple Clamps by Domina Doll
Adult Books
- The Human Pony by Cinnamon
- Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex by Dani Darling
- Moregasm by Alley
- The New Topping Book by Domina Doll
Adult Movies/Porn
- Nina Hartley’s Guide to Erotic Bondage by Domina Doll
- Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage by Lexi B.
- Real Lesbian Sex: Jay & Pike by The Porn Librarian
- Vengence by FrzKey
- Riot Grrrls by J.D. Bauchery
- Straight Guys for Gay Eyes – Bo Dean by The Porn Librarian
- Princess Kali – Domme In Training by FrzKey
Sex Furniture
Storage
Miscellaneous
- Teneo Uno and Duo by Beautiful Dreamer
- Portable Pink Dancing Kit by Beautiful Dreamer
- Ophoria K-Balls by CarrieAnn
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Pleasurists #61
by Gene Magic
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- Giftcard Giveaway! Deadline: January 22nd.
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e[lust] #5
Editor’s Pick
- Basic Essentials Softee by Undressed Reviews
Marketing Guy 1:
What do chicks love?Marketing Guy 2:
My Dick!MG 1 & 2:
WOOOOOAAAAAAHHHHH!MG 1:
No seriously, though…they love pink…and….and….MG 2:
My Dick!
Note: Seriously hilarious. If you like your reviews with a side of comedy and snark like I do this one is fantastic and may occasionally have you wondering wtf.
Editrix
Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
On to the reviews…
Vibrators
- LELO Ina by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
- Thrusting Jack Rabbit by True Pleasures
- Chester Cheeky by Ginger Leigh
- Impulse 5 Hypersonic Wand by Joan Price
- Tongue Joy Turbo Pack by Red
- Power Breeze Bullet by Joan Price
- Wahl by Epiphora
- Sweet Stimulator by Mistress Kay
- LELO Gigi by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
- MyPleasure Cosmetic Kit by Mistress Kay
- Lovemoiselle Cecile by Wilhelmina Wang
- Tantus Delta by namelesschaos
- JeJoue Gi-ki by Saraid
- She Devil by Sundae
- The Cone by Kristy
Dildos
Anal Toys
Toys for Cocks
Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.
- Pink water by Sarahbear
- AfterGlow Wipes by Scintillectual
- Afterglow Wipes by Cinnamon
- Body Essentials Kit by Beautiful Dreamer
- Pjur Med Clean Spray by Sexorcism
BDSM/Fetish
- Behind the Back Restraints by Cinnamon
- Hog Tie Set by Sammi
- Doc Johnson Bondage Rope by Mistress Kay
- Leather Paddle with Fleece by Mistress Kay
- Teddy Bear Spank-Her by Mistress Kay
- Adjustable Spreader Bar by J’s Alley
Adult Books
Adult Movies/Porn
- Girls Make Love by Garnet Joyce
- Women Seeking Women: Volume 50 by Thursday’s Child
- Roulette Dirty South by J.D. Bauchery
- Sun Valley Bareback by FrzKey
- Collin O’Neal’s World Of Men – Colombia by The Porn Librarian
- Hustlers Untrue Hollywood Stories Lindsay Lohan by J.D. Bauchery
- Foxy Nudes by FrzKey
Sex Furniture
Storage
HNT
This HNT I use as an opportunity to lay bare a part of my life that is very dear to me, King's daughter, The Princess (7).
Here she is trying to wave me away from her icecream, afraid I would steal some, which I did :)
Here she is trying to wave me away from her icecream, afraid I would steal some, which I did :)
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Mmmmmm......
I intend to try making this recipe from Cafe Chocolada, and I will post photos when I have...stay tuned...yummm
Monday, January 18, 2010
Latex
OMG OMG OMG...I so badly want this outfit.
I've never wanted anything latex so badly before.
I have had one previous experience with latex, when I was 18 and a boy I dated once bought me a latex pencil skirt from a sex shop. I had no idea what I was doing, how to care for it and how to get it on, and I wasn't smart enough at that point on where to find this information. Now as I look into myself for the things that I really enjoy and desire, latex is floating to the surface of my thoughts again. Just the idea of wearing this outfit out at a club and bouncing around, letting my kitty side have a play, then coming home and jumping into a shower and playing with the water before I remove the second skin and become myself again - mmm, yummy!
Sunday, January 17, 2010
Babysitting
The last couple of days King and I have been babysitting a house for a family member, and with that their two cats. They are crazy fun, but mostly a little crazy. They've already destroyed the headphones for King's iPhone, and while I'm worried that she (I'm sure it was the little one) will get sick from the wire, it's mostly annoying.
In happy news, King got his second best ever score at cricket yesterday, and I'm proud as can be of him. He was totally chuffed and I suggested going back to the club house to celebrate properly as he hadn't been in a while.
Long story...sorta long..., I was favoured with much affection last night for the idea because he had a blast! He even spoke briefly to 'Roo', who I was sure he was going to punch out next time he ran into him (totally justified and for another post).
I'm very proud and happy for my wonderful King, and we're going to work together to get his fitness up over the winter break.
Also, now he needs a new cricket bat - and I think that's a fair reward for the conquering hero.
In happy news, King got his second best ever score at cricket yesterday, and I'm proud as can be of him. He was totally chuffed and I suggested going back to the club house to celebrate properly as he hadn't been in a while.
Long story...sorta long..., I was favoured with much affection last night for the idea because he had a blast! He even spoke briefly to 'Roo', who I was sure he was going to punch out next time he ran into him (totally justified and for another post).
I'm very proud and happy for my wonderful King, and we're going to work together to get his fitness up over the winter break.
Also, now he needs a new cricket bat - and I think that's a fair reward for the conquering hero.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
First HNT - be kind :)
I have decided to participate in Half-Nekkid Thursday, which should help me with my self confidence issues, as well as get me to exercise a bit more, so that I can post a special Christmas 2010 HNT :)
Bonus
King took me to one of our local pubs tonight - the back up for when our main local is closed. It's really just a pokie venue, but its open 24/7 I think, which means when he gets home late and craves a beer, we have somewhere to go. Invariably we end up putting some money into the machines, even though we cannot really afford too much, but tonight we came out on top! I ended up with a spare $20 which I resisted putting back into the machine and held tightly til I could come home and stash it into my Knot Twisted Massage Therapy Fund jar - doubled my money already, what a good start!
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Knot Twisted Massage Therapy
I wanted to document my work and study goals for 2010 here.
I need to save $400 to put myself through a short massage course which is 20 hours in total.
Once I have finished that course, I can start my Certificate VI in Massage Therapy Practice. That will start in June this year, full time for 6 months, which is actually 3 days a week.
Once I have done that I can advertise myself as a qualified massage therapist.
I would love to do some massage work at play events, sort of a Post-Play Massage Therapy service, 10 minutes per person - I wonder if that would be of interest to people. If not I can always get some work at the football and cricket clubs working with the boys which wouldn't be as enjoyable, but i'd still be doing what I want to.
The Knot Twisted Massage Therapy Fund: $20 - well, it's a start!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Taking Stock
It's about that time of year. Parties are finished, Christmas and New Years is over and we've all had a chance to settle down into 2010. So I decided it was time I take stock, look at what I have carried from 2009 into the new year and see what I should have left behind.
For introductory purposes, the following people will be frequently referred to:
King - my husband and Master
The Princess - King's daughter
For introductory purposes, the following people will be frequently referred to:
King - my husband and Master
The Princess - King's daughter
Geekette - King's sister
The facts as they stand are:
* I am presently fighting a virus which has left me with a bad cough which means that I am getting next to no sleep and also keeping King awake.
* I have no job at the moment.
* King and I were both individually in debt when we met - we are both still there, which is near impossible to juggle on one income.
* There is unrest at King's workplace at the moment and we are not entirely sure what is happening - perhaps nothing, perhaps redundency, but it'll happen before March.
* I seem to have a small, but growing addiction to World of Warcraft - yes I am a geek.
* Unemployed and plays WoW - what's next? Ah yes, I am overweight. Not crazy health scare overweight, but a bit fat. I could seriously stand to loose 25-30kgs.
* Yesterday I felt like the worst daughter in the world, I was supposed to take my mother to the doctors and I let her talk me out of it because it was so hot today. I agreed, because I'd much rather be in airconditioning and playing WoW than driving in the heat in a car with no airconditioning. Unfortunately Mums car didn't make it all the way back, with a blue flame erupting from the bonnet and a complete loss of acceleration and power. Luckily noone was hurt, but my Mum was badly shaken and scared. My younger brother, Animal, arrived and helped as he was only a few minutes away. My father took the afternoon off work and all is well, but I can't shake the feeling that I should have been there. If I had we would have been in my car and it would never have happened.
Whew...small rant, thanks for hanging in there, I clearly needed to get that out.
The facts as they stand are:
* I am presently fighting a virus which has left me with a bad cough which means that I am getting next to no sleep and also keeping King awake.
* I have no job at the moment.
* King and I were both individually in debt when we met - we are both still there, which is near impossible to juggle on one income.
* There is unrest at King's workplace at the moment and we are not entirely sure what is happening - perhaps nothing, perhaps redundency, but it'll happen before March.
* I seem to have a small, but growing addiction to World of Warcraft - yes I am a geek.
* Unemployed and plays WoW - what's next? Ah yes, I am overweight. Not crazy health scare overweight, but a bit fat. I could seriously stand to loose 25-30kgs.
* Yesterday I felt like the worst daughter in the world, I was supposed to take my mother to the doctors and I let her talk me out of it because it was so hot today. I agreed, because I'd much rather be in airconditioning and playing WoW than driving in the heat in a car with no airconditioning. Unfortunately Mums car didn't make it all the way back, with a blue flame erupting from the bonnet and a complete loss of acceleration and power. Luckily noone was hurt, but my Mum was badly shaken and scared. My younger brother, Animal, arrived and helped as he was only a few minutes away. My father took the afternoon off work and all is well, but I can't shake the feeling that I should have been there. If I had we would have been in my car and it would never have happened.
Whew...small rant, thanks for hanging in there, I clearly needed to get that out.
Now surely is the time to look at the good things:
* King and I have a stable and cheap roof over our heads, living with his parents, which while it does restrict our 'fun', is very helpful and affordable for us right now.
* I have a gym membership - so why don't I use it? Motivation to exercise is a problem, and something I want to work on this year. By this years end, I will have lost the 25-30kgs that I really do need to loose.
* I have signed up to Goodreads on which I will be tracking the books I read this year. On that site I have joined one of the groups which aims for 50 books in a year. That should keep me focused on reading, rather than playing on the computer - hopefully.
* I am going to be studying again this year, finally, after talking about it for so long. I will be studying a short course on massage before June, and then in June I will start studying full time doing my Certificate IV in Massage Therapy Practice. That will be 3 days per week.
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